We recommend this $2.00 booklet which briefly and artfully explores how to be a parent to a grieving child while you are grieving. From the What's your Grief website:
As a parent, you don’t have the luxury of worrying only about yourself and your emotional well-being. It is your job, in good times and bad, to attend to the needs of your child as well as your own. Putting your child’s needs first is a no-brainer, so when something bad happens, it feels natural to put your own on the back burner.
The purpose of this 20-page booklet is to help parents who are dealing with their own grief balance their needs with the needs of the children in their care.
Topics covered in, Parenting While Grieving, include…
A short but thorough list with suggestions on how to explain death to children.