Navigating grief during the holidays can be particularly challenging for children and families. The holiday season is often associated with celebration and togetherness, which can intensify feelings of loss. Here are some suggestions for supporting grieving children and families during the season of family. 

Open Communication

Encourage open and honest communication about feelings. Create space & opportunities for youth to express their emotions and share memories of their person. Click here for Eluna's Grief Talk Activities and conversation starters for the holidays.

Create New Traditions

Consider establishing new traditions or adapting existing ones to honor the memory of the person who has passed away. This could involve lighting a candle, creating a memorial ornament, or sharing stories about special moments.This can help create a sense of continuity while acknowledging the changed circumstances. Page two of this grief talk activity provides a worksheet to reflect upon what tradition you may want to stop, start, or continue during the holiday season.

Consider Personalized Grief Gifts

This article, Bereavement Gifts: Beyond the Bouquet, provides a diverse list of personalized & meaningful gifts that can express condolences and provide comfort during times of profound loss. While grief can leave individuals feeling isolated and overwhelmed, these thoughtful gestures serve as a bridge between hearts, through empathy and support.

Manage Expectations

Adjust expectations for the holiday season. Grieving families may find it helpful to scale back on activities or events and focus on self-care and connection.

Offer Choices

Allow children and family members to participate in planning and decision-making. Giving them a sense of control can be empowering during a time when many things may feel out of their control.

Be Flexible

Understand that grief is a highly individual experience, and different family members & friends may cope in different ways. Be flexible and patient with each other.

Create a Memory Space

Set up a designated space where family members & friends can place photos, mementos, or written memories. This can serve as a tangible reminder of the person who is no longer physically present.

Focus on Self-Care

Emphasize the importance of self-care for both children and adults. This might involve taking breaks, getting enough rest, and engaging in activities that bring comfort and relaxation. We recommend these two activites to further reflect upon and practice self care throughout the holidays: Stepping In & Out of Grief and Grief Rights.

Seek Support

Encourage the family to seek support from friends, extended family, grief counselors, or support groups. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can provide comfort and understanding. The Eluna Resource Center uniquely offers free & confidential personalized support (in Spanish and English) that includes warm referals to Eluna camps and other local grief support programs.

Remember, grief is a complex and individual process. It's important to approach this season with patience, empathy, and understanding, giving permission to yourself and each family member to grieve in their own way and at their own pace.